What About Our Emotions — Behind the Mask

by Jim Gordon

Growing up in Christianity, I found myself usually wearing a mask when I went to church. Not a physical mask, but an imaginary mask to hide my true emotions. I always wore a smile on my face and I always acted like everything was good. When people would ask me how I was doing I would always say I’m doing great. The problem was I did not always feel like smiling. I was not always doing great.

So often in our Christian walk we get the idea that we cannot be ourselves and we have to hide our true emotions. We have to always be upbeat and positive and we cannot let people see we are normal human beings who have bad days.

I am not sure where that whole idea came from, but it is not wrong for our human emotions to be seen. We are not always going to be happy or in a good mood, and there will be times when we are mad, aggravated, worried or depressed. That is just being a normal human being, yet no matter what, we know that God loves us.

I think we need to come to the point where we are not afraid to be the real us. We need to take off the mask and just be human. That certainly does not mean we go around grumbling and complaining to everyone we meet. We do not yell and take our frustrations out on everyone every time we see them. Yet we should not hide who we really are or how we really feel.

When we have those days of frustration and depression, it is then our brothers and sisters and those who care about us can be a help and encouragement to lift us up.

As followers of Christ, we have a deep-down sense of spiritual peace and joy that passes comprehension. That does not mean there are times when our humanity is just not lined up with our spiritual reality.

That is why we need one another, why we need fellow believers and friends who care about us. None of us are always in a good mood. When we are down, our friends can help lift us up. When they are down, we can help lift them up.

Friendship, whether it is between fellow believers or people who see things completely opposite, is important to our well-being. Being friends does not have to be with people of the same faith or with similar views. Jesus said to love God and love your neighbor. Our neighbor, whether a fellow believer or not, can be a good friend when we look past the differences and love one another.

Jim Gordon and his wife left the institutional church after spending over fifty years within the system. Jim wanted a way to express his thoughts and concerns about the religious system and why he and his wife decided to leave the institution but not their faith in God. Jim can be contacted by email at: jimgordon731@gmail.com